…but you’re scared to leave the comfort of your safe, if boring (or even worse, soul-sucking) job.
Girl. I get it. I totally understand. I was deathly scared to leave the comfort of safe, if not soul-sucking, corporate jobs for years. Yet I knew I wanted to work my own thang for ages. I just didn’t know what I wanted to do or how to do it.
2 Essential Steps to Take Before Venturing Out On Your Own
First, I want to put a disclaimer out there. I’m incredibly grateful for all the jobs I’ve had and the companies that I’ve worked for and I say this with complete honesty. They made me who I am today, I gained incredible skills and I met amazing people. Whatever hangups I had about my jobs sucking the life force out of me were completely my own. Some people thrive with those jobs, but I knew I was meant to venture out on my own, and every morning that I woke up to do work that I hated, I felt like a fraud.
Do you feel like a fraud?
If the answer’s yes, then you are definitely in the wrong line of work for you, or you just need to gain a few new skill sets. But if you KNOW you’re a fraud because you’re meant to be doing your own thang, then sister-girl, here are 2 steps for you to take before quitting that cushy 9-5 and taking over the world:
1. Practice Baking
Everyone has a special treat in this world, and I’m not just saying this to blow smoke up your booty. You might know exactly what it is or you might have to do a lot of “practice baking” to find out if you make awesome cupcakes or scrumptious cookies. Ask yourself these 2 questions in conjunction: What lights your fire AND what are you good at?
You might be insanely good at telemarketing, accounting, watering the plants or picking other people’s toenails–but it doesn’t mean you would love doing those things for a living. Maybe you ARE doing those things for a living, and that’s exactly why you are looking to get out.
On the other hand, you may LOVE watering plants, but you just aren’t good at it. Water spills everywhere and the plants end up drowning. So you probably won’t get paid the big bucks to do this.
I know many people who love personal development and consider themselves armchair life coaches, but the fact is, they just aren’t very good at helping other people. They LOVE reading personal development books and blogs and working on themselves but they just don’t have the skills to help other people become their best selves.
There are 2 parts to this:
(1) Find something else that you love to do AND you’re good at;
(2) Take classes, become certified, and practice developing those skills that you lack.
Don’t know what you love AND what you’re good at? No problem–it’s not always so apparent to our own selves, and even less so if we love a million little things but don’t know which we’d rather do over the others (this is called the Sparkly Object Syndrome).
2. Ask Others to Taste Your Treat
Get your mind out of the gutter.
Ask at least 5-15 people what your best qualities are and why, and whether they’d pay you for doing what it is you want to do. Or, if you don’t know what that is, ask them what it is they see you doing.
This is your homework, guys. This is the hard stuff that most people don’t do but that you NEED to do if you want to make a sustainable and joyful living. Even if you think you know what you want to do, it’s still a wise idea to survey a group of honest people.
This isn’t to say that if one person’s opinion is completely different from your own, you should follow their advice. But you do want to get a feel for the consensus out there.
Ask at least 5-15 people who know you well. Spread your asking afar. DO NOT only ask close family members or friends…you want a variety of opinions here. Ask your coworkers, your gym buddies, your plant-watering buddies, etc. You want to get away from your close family and friends’ opinions because you might not get the truth. They might be the types to tell you you’re good at everything (yeah, these people are awesome), but are they speaking the truth? Are you really good at everything or are they just saying that because they want to be supportive and caring (for some reason, we think it’s being supportive and caring to lie to our loved ones about how great they are). You want HONEST opinions here–this is your life we’re talking about.
Or your family/friends might be jerks and tell you that you aren’t great at anything. This is not true (I can tell you that everyone has a special treat in this world…it just takes some practice baking to find out what that is). In this case, find a new set of friends and stay away from these negative family members as much as you can. (HINT: Finding a support network that will motivate + inspire you, be a positive influence, and make you a better person are CRUCIAL to becoming a successful entrepreneur).
There are many, many more steps to making the leap, but these first 2 are incredibly important and shouldn’t be ignored. Do the work, you’ll be happy you did.
We’ll talk about what it is you do want to do, the steps you’ll need to take and examine the mindset you’ll need to make the jump.